women on the market
- What do you think about this article?
- What are your thoughts on how women are being viewed?
- Bride wealth seems to be important in this women’s life and their families, what is one of the things that it seen in your culture?
- Marriage, how would you describe on your own terms when you are “ready” for marriage.. or the right time for it"
- In todays world, how do you think marriage, dating, having kids, moving together has changed from previous years?
1. I thought the article was fairly interesting. Especially the conflict where on one hand a honorable woman was considered independent and self-reliant, but on the other hand it was also honorable to be dependent on a man and to live lavishly instead of living conservatively.
ReplyDelete2. I think women are being viewed very similarly to how our culture would view women to be honest. In our own culture, we respect and celebrate women's rights and the freedom/success of women in our society. But at the same time, the women I've spoken to also share the same idea of marrying a dude that's financially well off and handsome (But not too handsome of course.) as a respectable option in life.
3. My mom always tells me that she would accept any woman that I would choose to marry, but when talking to one of my sisters, she always says that they should marry a rich and handsome white dude. I find this sentiment fairly often when discussing it with my Asian friends.
4. There are several like conditions a person should meet before considering marriage. The first thing would be having a stable and good income job because weddings and marriage in general is expensive. Another thing would be properly mentally ready for not only spending the rest of your life with someone, but being ready to handle kids and the challenges life throws at married couples.
5. I think modern day marriage is different from the past. For example, I imagine that most married couples would like to share in financial responsibilities in supporting the family. There is probably less reluctance for women to be the one to go support the family financially while the men stay at home to take care of the kids. Maybe it's just me, but I think more and more current generation couples want to have less kids or no kids at all.
1. I thought that this article was very interesting and I think that the marriage issue was actually fascinating to learn about. I think the struggles exhibited in Cameroon were something that I had never heard of but nonetheless I think it did open my eyes about how marriage is perceived in other countries and cultures.
ReplyDelete2. I think that the way that the women in Cameroon are thought of is kind of strange. I think the fact that these women have to be both independent but dependent on their husbands in order to be considered as having honor is very contradictory.
3. I do not think that there is a level of gift giving that is expected among couples from the men to the women in our society in the West but I do not think it happens or is required when it comes to marriages. I think that this idea that men has to provide money to a woman for her hand in marriage is much more common in other countries but no so much in the U.S.
4. Personally, I think marriage for me would only be right when it is a mutual decision between both partners and there is a great level of trust and love within the relationship. I think the women in Cameroon have a valid point in all their criteria when it comes to looking for a future partner and I agree with many of their points.
5. I think nowadays marriage and creating a family has been put back for many people to due more accessible higher education, income, careers, and birth control. I think that some people still want to get married, but as time has gone on, I think that most people find marriage is unnecessary when it comes down to being with their partners and feel the paper and the whole celebration is not needed.
1. I thought this article was fascinating to read as it dived deeper into the meanings behind marriage. I liked that it discussed honor because I had never really thought about that.
ReplyDelete2. I think the way women are viewed in the U.S. are somewhat similar to the ways that the article discussed. Some women will depend on the husband for a stable life, while some are breaking out of that tradition and working as a team or being the provider. I feel that while there is a growing support for feminists, women are often seen as having to be provided for.
3. In my culture, my parents want the man to ask for permission to marry their daughter. If they don't, then they feel it is somewhat rude or disrespectful. In many marriages today (although, I feel like I see it less often now), the father will give away the bride.
4. I think being ready for marriage depends on both partners in the relationship. Making sure that each is financially okay to have a stable life is important. It is also important for deeper aspects to be reciprocated, like emotions and beliefs.
5. I think marriage today has become less common. I feel like many people take their time instead of rushing into it and some do not believe in marriage. When it comes to having a family, I think people are being more open about not wanting children. Personally, I do not want children and have always had people tell me that my mind will change as I grow older. But, I think traditional activities like these are decreasing.
1. I think this article highlights the problems that come from dating. A lot of men in this article are suspected not to be serious when it comes to relationships and some of them are really not. However, the women are serious which creates a contradiction. These women simply have standards that the men they are seeing cannot reach which is another problem. It is an eye opening article.
ReplyDelete2. I think the view that a woman's respectability comes from marriage is a little unfair for the woman since circumstances regarding finding the right partners differ. I do think women can learn how to control themselves and their own chasteness is doable.
3. In my culture, the character of the woman is important. For example, my father would see if my partner would help them around the house and how she treats people. It is not just wealth of the partner that my Asian culture values.
4. I think the right time to marry is when I can provide for my significant other. I am ready to marry when I am able to mature a bit more and learn how to take care of other people better.
5. I think marriage, having children have changed from previous years in the sense that an increasing number of young people nowadays are not looking for marriage and a family especially when they do not make a lot of money. They reason that it is cheaper to take care of themselves and because of the high stress of their work environment.
1. I enjoyed the article a lot and found it very interesting. I enjoyed reading about the search to find a spouse from the women's perspective.
ReplyDelete2. I thought it was interesting how the women are viewed and want to be viewed. I think the contradictions between the control in the relationship can cause some problems though.
3. I think in American culture, the idea that the man has to have enough money and be able to provide for his wife is seen as important for some. However I think this idea is becoming less important.
4. I think I’d be ready for marriage when I mature and grow more, and feel ready to make the commitment.
5. I think that this expectation is definitely going away with time. I think a lot of people feel more comfortable not conforming to that lifestyle, and we have more freedom to do as you please. I think there is still a lot of pressure on both men and women to get married, settle down, and to have kids, but I think it is good that with time it is more accepted if you choose to do differently.
1. It was very interesting how online dating has affected non-Western cultures.
ReplyDelete2. They seem to know what they want and how to get it.
3. I mean, people say money isn't the most important thing but it is wise to be in a good place money wise as it is a thing that often stresses a marriage.
4. That is a very personal thing and not something another person can decide for you. I'm married and I suppose I knew because I saw no point in living together unmarried, we were old enough and both had careers, so why not just get married?
5. Why less people are doing so. I was surprised how many of my highschool peers are still unmarried and childless. I think it's a good thing honestly, in the past when people felt pressured into such things there were many unhappy marriages and childhoods for children born into such marriages. If people are only getting married/having children only because they *really want to* (like I did) instead of feeling like they *have to*, it's better for everyone.
1. I thought it was interesting to see how online dating has become so common in this era.
ReplyDelete2. I feel as if its very contradicting bc one one hand they are being praised for being independent but at the same time they are expected to rely on their husbands for support as well.
3. In my culture, it is important for the man to be able to financially support for the women and their family.
4. I don't think theres is a right time I think marriage is at everyones own pace and shouldn't have a determination of when it should be done.
5. I feel as if before you had one chance and once you had a partner you were to stick with them for the rest of your life, but now you are free to start over without such harsh judgement.